Have a laugh on me... And save time, energy and money, by avoiding these these mistakes:
Late last Thursday, I received a referral from a friend. She told me a that she'd referred me to a buyer who was interested in purchasing a home and gave me the particulars--budget, bedrooms, baths, etc.
Friday morning , I did some preliminary checking to see what was in inventory, in anticipation of his call.

What I prefer doing is bring people into the office, get a clear picture of their needs, timing, budget, explain agency and the exclusive buyer's agency agreement and develop a game plan. (This can also be done over the phone with out-of-town buyers)
But, the morning passed and there was NO call from my prospect. (that should have told me something)
I went on with my day. At 4PM on Friday, I received a call from my prospect.
--it seems he was on the Golf course most of the day. "Hi this is Sam, he said. "can you show (particular listing he saw)? "I can meet you at 4:30, I said.--ready to laugh? He asked if would still be light out?
(first mistake:--he is in control; the public thinks "agents are 24/7"; this guy thinks: " the agent couldn't possibly have anything to do on a Friday evening!" )
"I will meet you over there," he said
I met him, made some small chit chat, I showed the home--which he didn't like. I (the dummy) said, "there's another we should take a look at just to give you an idea of what you can get within the same price range which offers more value--
(Second mistake: compounding the first one, not abiding by my policy to come to the office, etc.)
"and I'd also like to take some time to get a better idea of what you're looking for. We can also review agency law as required by South Carolina and discuss your needs more fully", I said. He was agreeable.
We went into the next home and he really liked it. And wanted to see more of similar homes. He seemed very enthused. He didn't sign the exclusive buyer's agency agreement, which I reviewed with him-- because he wanted to take it with him "to review again" (!!*&%@!!)
(Third mistake: letting the buyer agency agreement leave my hands) what happens in the case of referrals from friends is that you begin to get soft, don't want to appear too pushy and you're more trusting of your prospect and assume they are more trustworthy.)
As we parted he said, "See you Monday--I have an early golf date and then I'll call you and we'll get together."
"Fine", I (the dummy ) said, "I'll be in the office on Monday morning and the afternoon would be a good time to get together."
(Fourth mistake: buyer is in control--AGAIN!--did I think to myself: "gee I don't want to interfere with his golf game...after all his time is much more valuable than mine")
Saturday, I (the dummy) continued my research and called new home sales people who might have spec homes available in his price range--(my prospect didn't want to build). I (the dummy) also researched FSBO's to see if there were homes that might fit the bill.
(Fifth mistake:--working for FREE, wasting time on a potential buyer I didn't know enough about--who came looking without his !!!SPOUSE!!!)
Monday morning came and went--I (the dummy) hung around the office and called and left a message. Not a word--no return call. Tuesday came and went. "He's changed his mind", I (the dummy) thought.
On Wednesday my referrer called me to tell me, her friend "really, really, really liked me but, what he really, REALLY wanted was _____ (not what I had shown him) and and He's not in a hurry anyway."
"Oh? OK ." I (the dummy), said!!!
Now, I've been down this road before, and I am sure you have too, and most of us have had the experience of putting in a lot of windshield time--like tour guides, we drive folks around who don't buy and just waste our time.
Time is something you cannot get back!
Who do I blame for wasting my time?
I blame me!
The really good thing that came out of it is the decisions I've made.
(1) TO NOT be so hungry and so "needy" that I allow myself to be abused by buyers. (Don't think thoughts like these: "Well, they're gonna buy someday, so it might as well be through me...")
(2) The only way I'll work with a buyer is if (a) they first take the time to come to my office so I can explain all of the legal stuff and how I work. (if they're out of town obviously they can't come to my office but I will make sure they know how I operate. When they come to town they are ready to sign off on the exclusive buyer agency agreement.
[Why do I think it's important to get folks into the office? When you go to visit with a lawyer, where do you go? Their office. When you go to the doctor where do you go? Their office. It adds to your credibility as a professional to bring prospects in to your office. (I have no proof of this it's just an opinion.)]
(3) How I work changes, now:
- -I will not violate my policies and principles for anyone (even friends or family)
- -I will not begin personally showing homes without an exclusive buyer's agency agreement
- -I will not be a tour guide--at least, for free.
- -I will only offer "buyer services" for a fee--to those buyer prospects who are just window shopping and have no clear time frame-- and should they buy, eventually--I will deduct my fees from the co-broke.
(4) I will refer buyer prospects who don't want to work this way to others who may choose to accept or reject the referral.
(5) I will always remember, If I don't respect my time, neither will anyone else
(6) I will always remember, if I don't respect myself, neither will anyone else.
Thanks for visiting "the house of pain..."